men and cuddling!

This morning lying in bed, I came to a life changing realization. An issue I have been struggling with for a few years, a problem that drives all girls crazy and a predicament that will haunt us, well… forever…yes I am talking about the ‘cuddling issue’.

After talking to a few of my girlfriends about reasons for previous breakups, we all came to one conclusion, a man that doesn’t cuddle, or at least put his differences aside to cuddle up to you at night/ morning/ or whenever you need it…is a crash waiting to happen.

Just take a moment and think about all your past relationships. Think long and hard, because there might be the guy that met at the bar that had magnificent hair and you were dating for a few weeks, jumped into bed with and then once you had messed up the sheets…he rolled over. DEAL BREAKER.

Now if I have any men reading this, dean, I don’t want you to think of me in a negative way, I have gone through plenty worse with a man before leaving him like a sack of potatoes, but maybe I should have taken a look at the cuddling signs before I let it get that far.

Men do tend to have a higher body temperature, a lower tolerance of body to body contact and a time limit of the amount of time spent doing ‘nothing’ in bed. But, please do not despair males, because you are good at some things, just not necessarily cuddling.

Ill explain why, men need to separate the two, sex and love. Love and sex. But then love doesn’t necessarily mean cuddles and passion after, and neither does sex.
If he cant just give you a cuddle when in bed at any point of a night, you don’t get a chance to release the tension from your body that you may have experienced in the day.
Cuddling is especially important when sex isn’t involved. It shows you still want to be close and intimate with that person even if you haven’t made love.

Now I’m not saying ditch him because he doesn’t cuddle in bed, but take a look at your relationship now instead of worrying about it later.

This is all I’m going to say on this issue because I could go on for days, outlining my old relationships, past mistakes and failures, all for the greater good of making my point...
But I won’t because eventually you will all get to know me from my blog, so we will start off small.

Louise- currently unloved and uncuddled.

other blogs...

hmmmm, I have one follower, Dean, your stalking abilities have grown. spread the word!

But if you don't want to follow my blog i have found one that people might like.
cupcakesandcashmere.com it is a great blog by a rather beautiful young girl.
She is typically beautiful, blonde, skinny, perfect dress sense, but you just have to love the blog.

She lives in LA and walks around in fantastic heels. besides the fact she has a 'to do' for painting nails and braiding your hair.. the blog is great.

Another fantastic blog, is Lucy Laucht. I found this love in the newest Cleo magazine and her first few words had me hooked
" I'm not really a short-dress-and-heels-girls..my bog inspires me to make different looks every day" fantastic! check it out

help needed...

So what do you do when you know something has to end....do you sit around and wait for it to happen, or do you change the outcome of the situation.
I would change my plan and make the most important thing work.. but in my case I have no choice.
So if anyone would like to join my following, inspiring, delusional blog...please answer truthfully...what would you do?

Louise- disorientated and confused
xxx

starting up my blog...

well well well, I finally decided to start my own blog. I usually have very interesting things to say..not everyone wants to see them...but then whats the point of a blog!?

Here is a blog I wrote for another website stylepalace.com.au
I'd like to share it with you all..

Since recently being heartbroken, I had to find a new love. It’s very hard to find something in my life that doesn’t end up disappointing me.

Until I found Lover.*

*Lover is a brand designed by Susien Chong and Nic Briand, two Australian designers that mix their individual tastes to create what they describe as ‘a mix and match of our favourite heroes, muses, films and songs.”

The new 2010 Autumn-Winter Collection has just been released and I fell in love.

The first words that came to mind were; ease and neutral. The collection is called Harvest and you can see the beautiful trailer on the website.

One dress that stood out to me was a little lace black dress. The sleeves are three quarter, the length is sexy, the cut is short and the see-through look is classy. The whole look is divine and I can’t wait to get my wandering hands upon it.

So many items in this collection scream ‘winter will never be boring’.

I have already started saving for my winter wardrobe… including a great set of boots.

Make sure you read next week’s blog, as I will take you through my love for boots. Extensive research and money has gone into finding the perfect boot and I want to share my knowledge.

The point of this blog, and I hope I made it, was to let you know that when something falls apart (like love) there is always a bright side. Mine just happens to be Lover and their gorgeous tailored jackets and dresses which burn holes in my pockets.

Also…Watch out for the new MAC Viva Glam lipstick by Lady GaGa. Every cent goes to helping people with HIV and AIDS. Stylish and good for your karma!++++

Louise Jeckells, penniless and surrounded by too many fashion magazines.

www.loverthelabel.com-check this baby out...