men and cuddling!

This morning lying in bed, I came to a life changing realization. An issue I have been struggling with for a few years, a problem that drives all girls crazy and a predicament that will haunt us, well… forever…yes I am talking about the ‘cuddling issue’.

After talking to a few of my girlfriends about reasons for previous breakups, we all came to one conclusion, a man that doesn’t cuddle, or at least put his differences aside to cuddle up to you at night/ morning/ or whenever you need it…is a crash waiting to happen.

Just take a moment and think about all your past relationships. Think long and hard, because there might be the guy that met at the bar that had magnificent hair and you were dating for a few weeks, jumped into bed with and then once you had messed up the sheets…he rolled over. DEAL BREAKER.

Now if I have any men reading this, dean, I don’t want you to think of me in a negative way, I have gone through plenty worse with a man before leaving him like a sack of potatoes, but maybe I should have taken a look at the cuddling signs before I let it get that far.

Men do tend to have a higher body temperature, a lower tolerance of body to body contact and a time limit of the amount of time spent doing ‘nothing’ in bed. But, please do not despair males, because you are good at some things, just not necessarily cuddling.

Ill explain why, men need to separate the two, sex and love. Love and sex. But then love doesn’t necessarily mean cuddles and passion after, and neither does sex.
If he cant just give you a cuddle when in bed at any point of a night, you don’t get a chance to release the tension from your body that you may have experienced in the day.
Cuddling is especially important when sex isn’t involved. It shows you still want to be close and intimate with that person even if you haven’t made love.

Now I’m not saying ditch him because he doesn’t cuddle in bed, but take a look at your relationship now instead of worrying about it later.

This is all I’m going to say on this issue because I could go on for days, outlining my old relationships, past mistakes and failures, all for the greater good of making my point...
But I won’t because eventually you will all get to know me from my blog, so we will start off small.

Louise- currently unloved and uncuddled.